I don't really have anywhere else to get this out.

[Gabelet]

So, apologies for the minor relationship rant.

I'm in love with a girl named Claire. She's not the most ideal girlfriend in the world; she's easily distracted and forgets to think about people's emotions, and she certainly fails attentive sometimes. But she's sweet and intelligent, and I dated her for eleven months. We broke up in November for those reasons, mostly. But all these months later, I'm still in love with her, and I told my current girlfriend that and that I wanted to split because of it. She's rather stayed on with me, because she's hoping that if Claire says no, she doesn't want to try again, that I'll go back to her, but...

Yes, Claire is flawed, she isn't the best girlfriend one could have, our relationship had some large kinks I'd like to try and work out if we do get back together, but is it too much to ask that my most recent ex-girlfriend, who I still talk to, doesn't pick at her flaws and say degrading things about her and how she interacts with me? I'm feeling awful enough already, with the waiting for her reply, and I'm a naturally protective person, so her saying something bad about someone I love, whether it's true or not, makes me want to punch her.

*sighs* Relationships are complicated.

[PonyMama]

Your telling me, but depending on your age, you have tons of time.

Sometimes just being friends is better for you. I love my ex boyfriends Jason and Leslie (they are step brothers) very much, but as they and I made for a bad relationship we decided to be friends. They are two of my very best friends, Flawed just like me, but friends all the same. I have long been upgraded to part of the family.

I dated one of my ex's 22 times before we gave up. We are still friends to this day as well. Sometimes trying can make a base for a beautiful friendship.

[JadeAngel]

all two of my ex's i'm still friends with...and the guy i'm dating now, we were friends for 5 years before we went out

[Farnley Kombu]

Most of my guy friends are my ex's... actaully, come to think of it, all of them are (except for one)

I agree with PM. If you talk to her in a hey-I'm-your-friend manner, maybe things will fall into place. I always say "things happen for a reason. Try not to fight the wind, but go with it." Meaning, just let life take you where it may

[Raenia]

I agree that friendship is a great place to keep a relationship you aren't sure about. I actually consiously delayed a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship until I was sure we were going to be wonderful friends too. You can't be more than a friend without being a friend, in my oppinion.

So I guess I would say, still be friends with her, and let things go where they will.